Discarded: Hoovering, Trauma Bonds and The Unexamined Victim

Discarded: Hoovering, Trauma Bonds and The Unexamined Victim

Discarded: Hoovering, Trauma Bonds, and the Unexamined Victim explores the hidden psychology behind one of the most confusing and painful experiences of narcissistic abuse: being discarded. When a narcissist leaves — only to return, manipulate, or “hoover” — it can leave victims doubting their own judgment, spiraling in self-blame, and trapped in an invisible cycle of emotional dependency. Drawing on trauma psychology, attachment theory, and behavioral science, this book examines why trauma bonds form, how hoovering manipulates emotions, and why victims often remain “unexamined” — unaware of the subtle ways abuse reshapes their identity and behavior. Through theory-informed insights and practical strategies, you’ll learn how to: Identify hoovering tactics and break the cycle of emotional manipulation - Understand trauma bonding and the ways it rewires attachment and trust - Recognize patterns of self-sabotage and reclaim autonomy - Rebuild your identity, set boundaries, and reclaim emotional freedom This book is for anyone who has been discarded, drawn back in, or left questioning their worth. By combining psychological theory with compassionate guidance, Discarded helps victims understand what happened, why it affected them so deeply, and how to finally break free from the invisible chains of narcissistic abuse.