Matrescence: On Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood

Matrescence: On Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood

A NEW YORKER BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR • An important, moving, passionate and passionately written inquiry—personal and scientific—into what happens—mentally, spiritually, physically, during the process of becoming a mother, from pregnancy and childbirth to early motherhood and what this profound process tells us about the way we live now. “Wide-ranging and hugely ambitious…Marshalling memoir, science, sociology, and history, Jones argues that, outside of adolescence, there is no transformation as dramatic in a human’s life [as motherhood], in both its emotional and biological impacts.” — The New Yorker In this important and ground-breaking, deeply personal investigation, Jones writes of the emerging concept of “matrescence” – the wholeness of becoming a mother. Drawing on her own experiences of twice becoming a mother, as well as exploring the latest research in the fields of neuroscience and evolutionary biology; psychoanalysis and existential therapy; sociology, economics and ecology, Jones writes of the physical and emotional changes in the maternal mind, body, and spirit and shows us how these changes are far more profound, wild, and enduring than have been previously explored or written about. Part memoir, part scientific and health reporting, part social critique, ecological philosophy, eco-feminism and nature writing, Matrescence is a kind of whodunnit, ferreting out with the most nuanced, searing and honest observations, why mothers throughout this heightened transition are at a breaking point, and what the institution of intensive, isolated motherhood can tell us about our still-dominant social and cultural myths. A New Yorker Best Book of the Year Longlisted for Women's Prize for Non-Fiction “Wide-ranging and hugely ambitious…Marshalling memoir, science, sociology, and history, Jones argues that, outside of adolescence, there is no transformation as dramatic in a human’s life [as motherhood], in both its emotional and biological impacts.”  — The New Yorker “The book I wish I’d had [when I had my first child]…A tenderly woven, comprehensive explanation of what happens to us when we grow, birth and care for a baby…[Jones] meticulously builds to an irrefutable conclusion: Becoming a mother changes us in ways that are external, internal, and lasting, and it is ‘likely the most drastic endocrine event in human life.’”  — The Cut “Fascinating…This is game-changing stuff and draws on lots of research—the author is known as a science and nature writer. It isn’t a dry book, though, and there’s something here for everyone, whatever your experience has been.” — Good Housekeeping "Insightful and honest." — Choice “In this maddening journey of motherhood, I encourage everyone to let Matrescence be your soothing guide. From my early days of motherhood to a few years deep in the trenches, Lucy’s words and wisdom continues to guide and comfort me. Matrescence is the sister I never had but always longed for as I try to figure out how to mother in this world. It’s a fierce book, equally tender as it is sharp. It is my kind of bible that I will carry with me (and gift to others!) for a long time.” — Szilvia Molnar, author of The Nursery “Sweeping and courageous.” —Tom Mustill, biologist, filmmaker, author of How to Speak Whale "A deep dive into the radical transformation of becoming a mother...An intimate, insightful memoir." — Kirkus   “Jones puts her finger squarely on the shame and embarrassment many mothers feel when they don't know what the right thing is for their baby…Finally, we have someone who tells the truth about motherhood. We have needed a Lucy Jones for a long time.” — Psychology Today “The best book I’ve ever read about motherhood. Myths are . . . smashed from page one, which makes this a thrilling read. Matrescence is essential reading, bloody and alive, roaring and ready to change conversations.” —Jude Rogers, The Observer (UK) “To read this book – and I very much hope its audience is not confined to women who are about to or have recently given birth – is to emerge chastened and ready for change. Anger is not an emotion we expect from mothers. But, as Jones says, good anger is necessary. Let us hold to that.” —Marianne Levy, I News (UK) “I loved this book. It’s a questioning, intelligent investigation into the process of becoming a mother, sparked by Jones’ own life but looked at from all angles: environmental, social, historical, neurobiological, psychoanalytical, and more. She suggests that portrayals of motherhood as either rose-tinted bliss or boring drudgery means we fail to prepare women for its reality—and we also fail to allow for its wilder, radical possibilities. Revelatory.” — Joanna Quinn, author of The Whalebone Theatre “A beautiful contemplation of the extraordinary yet ordinary metamorphosis that adult humans undergo as they become mothers. I was entranced . . . a passionate and powerful maternal roar for change. Wonde